Navigating a divorce is never easy for Alaska parents or those in other states. Some cases are more complex than others, yet most families experience stress and disruption in their daily lives, at least for a time, when a set of parents decides to go their separate ways in life. With the 2023 holiday season on the horizon, parents who are going through or have recently finalized a divorce will want to make sure their child custody plans are holiday proofed.
What does that mean? It basically means that you will want to incorporate details in your co-parenting agreement to help you avoid child custody disputes or legal complications during the holidays. Children are typically better able to cope with divorce when their parents have worked out a solid and agreeable custody plan.
Take time to discuss the holidays before signing a child custody agreement
If you file for divorce in the spring or summer, you might not think ahead to the holidays, which could spark problems between you and your ex later in the year. Emotions often run high during the holidays, which are often nostalgic and sentimental for parents and children. By writing out terms of agreement ahead of time, you’ll leave less room for confusion and disputes.
A solid parenting agreement will include details regarding three main issues, namely residence, vacations and special occasions and events. Sometimes, multiple categories will intersect, such as if you or your ex want to take your kids on vacation during a holiday, which is a special occasion. You can start by compiling a list of holidays and expected special events, then determining which parent will spend which occasions with the children.
Consider a rotating child custody schedule for the holidays
You might want to simplify the process by creating a rotating schedule for child custody during the holidays. If your family celebrates Thanksgiving and Christmas, for instance, you and your ex can take turns celebrating such occasions with your children. One year, the kids can spend the time with you, then with their other parent the following year. Some parents choose to spend holidays together with their kids, which is also fine if you and your ex get along well.
Don’t forget to discuss finances related to holidays and special events, such as school field trips, sports, birthday parties and more. Will you and your ex share expenses for gifts and special event supplies, or will you take turns covering the cost? The more detailed your written agreement is regarding such issues, the better, because it helps prevent child custody disputes. When you keep your children’s best interests in mind, you can work together to devise an agreement that enables everyone to enjoy the holidays without legal complications.