Parenting comes with numerous ups and downs. Some days, you may feel as if everything is in your favor and that you are the best parent you can be. Other days, you likely doubt every decision you make and wonder whether your children are growing up as best as possible. These feelings affect every Alaska parent, and you may be questioning your decisions even more now that you and your spouse are getting a divorce.
Right now, your plate is overflowing with tasks. You will likely need to have meetings about your divorce case and have to obtain documents and information relating to your case all while also likely going to work and trying to take care of your kids. Understandably, you feel overwhelmed.
Help yourself and your kids through divorce
Though you undoubtedly want to make sure your children make it through the process with as few negative impacts as possible, you also need to ensure that you take care of your own well-being. Fortunately, there are overlapping ways to help yourself and your kids through this period of transition, such as:
- Creating a new budget: Because you will now live on a single income, it is important that you budget accordingly. Knowing how much you can spend can help you and your kids because it may cause you to stress about money less and allow you to continue meeting your children's needs.
- Getting along with the other parent: Depending on how and why the marriage ended, this task may be fairly easy or difficult. Still, if you get along with your ex, you may have less conflict in your life, and your kids will not have to feel at odds with either parent.
- Communicating: Your kids may feel confused and have many questions during this time. If you maintain open communication with them, they may feel more at ease because you can reassure them, and you may feel more at ease by knowing what is on their minds.
- Asking for help: You may feel as if you have to do everything on your own, but having help can go a long way in helping both you and your kids through the divorce. You likely have friends or family members who would gladly watch your kids or run an errand for you when you cannot do both.
In some cases, a seemingly small action could do a lot for lessening stress and helping your transition from marriage to single life through divorce to go more smoothly.