Wanting what is best for your children has likely been on your mind since the birth of your first child and possibly even before. Though you may have tried your best to help them grow and learn without suffering unnecessarily, you likely now worry about how your pending divorce will affect their well-being.
Children are amazingly resilient, and yours will undoubtedly get through the divorce and willingly face the changes ahead. Of course, you and the other parent have the task of finding the child custody arrangements that will work best for the kids. Like many other parents in Alaska, you may feel that joint custody could prove the most viable option.
Though joint custody is often considered the best arrangement for the kids because it allows them to continue having regular time with both parents, you and the other parent may hit some snags along the way. After all, there is a reason you divorced, and it could be that you simply do not get along well anymore. Still, joint custody means that you will need to work together on many issues when it comes to your kids.
Even if you do not feel as if you have nice things to say about the other parent, it is important that you do not voice negative opinions about him or her in front of the kids. Your relationship with the other parent may no longer feel important to you, but your children's relationships with that parent are important. Your negative opinions could potentially put them in a difficult position.
Having the right schedules and custody terms could also help avoid unnecessary conflict. By looking at your schedule, your ex's schedule, the kids' schedules for school and activities, holidays, and other events that you may need to address, you may have a more realistic view of what type of arrangements may work best as far as when the children are with each parent.
Coming to the best terms
Because each family is different, the custody arrangements that stem from a divorce also differ. If you have concerns regarding joint custody and wonder how state laws may affect your case's outcomes, you may wish to speak with a family law attorney. Having reliable information about your custody options may help you now and in the future if a dispute arises.